We’re here on Day Twenty-Four of the 31 Day Blog Challenge! It takes a slightly darker turn today with a discussion on a difficult time in my life. I’ll be honest, this is probably the topic I least wanted to write about.
I talk about this from time to time. I lost my dad to cancer when I was 23. He was only in his early 50’s at the time. It began with Dad slowly losing his voice. He put off the doctor appointment for way too long. It turned out he had esophageal cancer. He was originally treated with surgery and radiation with great success, but it came back a year later. It didn’t go as well the second time.
We ended up moving up north shortly before it came back. A lot of really bad times happened with our extended family relationships at the same time. My dad was also (wrongfully) let go from his job for missing too much work… for cancer treatments… and we couldn’t maintain the insurance. Luckily he had veterans’ benefits, but it turned out that was a sad joke. While his original insurance had the doctors still trying to save him, the veterans’ hospital just dropped him in the terminal ward. They eventually sent him home to die.
My mom and I primarily took care of Dad at this time. My younger sister chose this time to move out. Even worse is that she did it without any warning and snuck out in the middle of the night. That was the beginning of the end of our relationship. Dad died two months later.
Things after that were a blur of sadness, moving, and a new job… the same job where I was later permanently injured. Yeah, not a great time.
What was a difficult time in your life?